Pick yourself up...

Ah Nat, words to live by.

A work in progress

I like to think of my ADHD as a work of art in progress.  Some days the colors come together in a complementary symphony that leaves me grateful to have the experience of living with a mind, that while different is also uniquely creative.  However, some days I spill coffee on the canvas... burn myself and accidentally lock the paint brushes in the car with my keys.  The trick is remembering that both scenarios are perfect and that one does not preclude the other.

When I began dealing with my ADHD I was euphoric at my ability to accomplish the simple things that used to seem infinite and impossible.  I would breeze through the days with a renewed sense of capability and confidence.  But as with all things, you cannot coast through perfection forever.  Some days are full of challenges that bring up the old frustrations and pain.   Some activities will simply always be a tremendous challenge for me regardless of how easy they may be for others around me.

The trick is keeping the art of progression in mind when you feel that you are slipping back into a world of disorganization.  Rome was not built in a day and it is crucial to try and take a daily look at the small accomplishments.  I celebrate victories like remembering consistently to put the laundry in the hamper, or put the dishes in the dishwasher as soon as I am finished eating.  I try to repeat these activities and make it a habit... but there are days when the laundry is more stubborn and despite my best efforts curls up comfortably on the bathroom floor.

I have made peace with these small things.  I celebrate their completion, and at times I take comfort in my strengths when they do not come easy.  To the rest of the world it is hard to understand, but if you live within that magical ADHD brain it is crucial to remember not to be hard on yourself when inevitably some days will just be harder than others.

In Good Company

Famous People with ADHD

This is a short list of exceptional people who have/had ADHD.  You will notice that due to both a lack of research and understanding there are few women.  Until we have a more complete list, notice that these are all people who think "outside the box".  There are also a lot of very creative people.  Sometimes being a little "different" or not fitting into the norm, can work to your advantage.  We hope this encourages you.

Actors
Bill Cosby	Jim Carey	Harry Belafonte
Cher	Kirk Douglas	Ann Bancroft
Dustin Hoffman	Robin Williams	Suzanne Somers
George Burns	Steve McQueen	Tracey Gold
George C. Scott	Sylvester Stallone	Whoopi Goldberg
Henry Winkler	Will Smith	Lindsay Wagner
James Stewart	Tom Smothers	Danny Glover

Artists
Pablo Picasso	Vincent Van Gogh	Ansel Adams

Authors
Emily Dickinson	Virginia Wolf	F. Scott Fitzgerald

Athletes
Bruce Jenner	Pete Rose	Magic Johnson
Jackie Stewart	Babe Ruth	Micael Jordan
Nolan Ryan	Jason Kidd	Greg Louganis

Inventors
Leonardo Da Vinci	Orville & Wilber Wright	Benjamin Franklin
Thomas Edison	William Wrigley	Alexander Graham Bell

Scholars
Sir Issac Newton	Galileo	Albert Einstein

Statesmen
Anwar Sadat	Abraham Lincoln	John F. Kennedy
Winston Churchill	Prince Charles	Dwight Eisenhauer
Robert F. Kennedy	Woodrow Wilson	Nelson Rockafeller

Entrepreneurs
Walt Disney	FW Woolworth	Andrew Carnegie
Henry Ford	Malcolm Forbes	William Randolph Hearst

Your Brain at Work

When I entered into the workforce in my mid twenties I was incredibly fortunate to happen upon a series of events that almost accidentally highlighted my strengths and intelligence.  Soon after my career began I landed an executive management position faster than I ever could have ever imagined.  I have always been a creative at heart, so I was shocked and almost giddy when I realized I could be good at anything remotely analytical.

So what was it about this job so ill-fitting to my personality and full of pressure that made me feel so lucky?  And why do most ADHD women loose confidence and end up in a downward spiral when faced with a relatively simplistic entry level position?

While the sudden rise in responsibility appeared daunting at first, it was what inevitably allowed me to survive on a daily basis.  What was happening with my management position was a series of daily challenges and big picture tasks that were full of stimulating and thought provoking activity.   It was this stimulation that provided a natural focus allowing me to coast through my work days in a time before I understood my ADHD brain.  When it came to the menial day to day work I would inevitably get stuck and begin to feel worthless... but throw me in a meeting full of top dogs and I seemed to have the midas touch at unravelling the mysteries of the universe.  There was only one problem: the dichotomy between my inability to do simplest of things and my perceived ability and intelligence by my peers.  At the end of the day the divide left me feeling like a big ol' fraud.

What started out as a sudden burst of self confidence and renewed sense of ability slowly began to erode when I would get stuck connecting the dots of the simplest tasks.  I began to enter into every day wondering if this is the day I would be found out for who I really was.  After all, all they would have to do is open the drawers of my desks to see that chaos rained supreme.  I ended up leaving my job for another as the stress of unfinished piles of work began to mount and I figured it was only a matter of time before they realized I had no idea what I was doing anyway.

This is the sad truth that leads so many undiagnosed and brilliant ADHD women into a constant spin cycle of feeling as though they have failed.  It is also the reason why so many talented and capable women get stuck struggling at the entry level and fail to get off the ground and realize their true potential. 

Looking back I wish that I had the tools to better understand what made my brain different and unique.  The truth is, I was highly capable and I did do great things for the companies I worked for.  I was able to look at the big picture and come up with innovative ideas that inevitably had a tremendous impact on the bottom line.  What I didn't understand was that my brain was severely lacking the most essential chemicals necessary for stimulation and that when external stimulation was lacking I would inevitably become paralyzed by the inability to complete what was in front of me.

This is where treatment for ADHD women becomes a true life saver.  If I had understood my strengths and weaknesses I could have considered using an assistant for the areas in which my brain would get suck.  Similarly, I could have considered a medication regimen to help stimulate my frontal lobe thereby enabling me to get those less stimulating tasks accomplished myself.

I feel tremendously fortunate to be in the minority of women with ADHD who are learning to recognize and move through the challenges that the disorder presents.  While the story listed above is only one of many in a lifetime full of perceived 'failures', the basic understanding of what I am dealing with has enabled me to put down the 10,000lb weight of shame and move forward with the knowledge that my talents and abilities are indeed very REAL.

I hear that, kid...

If you read only one...

If you read only one ADHD book, then this should definitely be it.  I have to give a shout out to Sari Solden for paving the way for ADHD women with an in depth understanding of how the disorder uniquely effects women.  If you don't already own and you are a woman with ADHD then I would highly recommend it.

I don't know Sari and I am not affiliated with the book, I just know that it has been a profound tool in helping me to understand my own brain and how to untie the seemingly impossible knots therein.

Exercise on the Brain...

Exercise, oh how I have always loved our long distant relationship.  The kind where a few times of year we meet up on a random hike or a bike ride and then I swear you off again when I cannot walk for days afterward.  Besides, who has time for it anyway?  Or at least… that is what I used to think when taking the time to ponder a physical fitness regimen and why it did not and could not fit into my own life.  I was blessed by a metabolism that has always been relatively forgiving and as a result I viewed exercise as both time consuming and unnecessary.   That game changed; however, almost instantly upon the arrival of my thirties.  Suddenly everything I ate just sort of seemed to stick and I decided to march into my local gym on December 31^st and make myself a New Year’s cliché.

Time passed and while many aspects of my physique are a testament enough to the wonders of time and commitment to regular physical activity, the real change has been in my brain chemistry.  Most of us are aware that exercise naturally increases the production of endorphins making us naturally happier while simultaneously reducing stress.  But the game changer here in the case of people with ADHD is that exercise also (and this is the important part) significantly and immediately elevates dopamine and norepinephrine levels and keeps them elevated for a significant amount of time.  Doctors have discussed at length the benefits of regular exercise for the ADHD brain by helping to control impulsivity while waking up the executive function of the frontal cortex.  So what we are really talking about is exercise = a natural form of medication.

I will admit, I never really believed I would be able to get into a routine at a gym after living a long and happy life of a skinny fat person (trim but underneath the clothes completely out of shape).  So when I snapped to it with regular consistency and enthusiasm it struck me… I get far more out of sweating to the oldies than just a better body. 

In the beginning it was hard for me to justify daily trips to the gym because of the time it would take.  In an ADHD brain the act of packing up, going to the gym, coming home, showering all seemed like a bit too much to throw into my already over taxed life.  Oh, but how mistaken I was.  Soon I realized that gym days overall ended up being far more productive than days when I skipped out and stayed home (and, oh, lets say… ended up blowing four hours on facebook or watching Real Housewives marathons). 

So here’s to exercise. Paying for the gym membership is my motivation to go consistently, but if you are the kind of person who can get excited by a morning run or a Yoga class it all adds up to the same thing, a refreshed sense of focus and calm.